Throughout this week I have not been feeling the greatest. I am not sure if I caught some kind of bug or if my body is just exhausted. Whatever the reason, I had absolutely no desire to do anything that required putting on a bra today.

As I was lounging earlier, I skimmed through the latest issue of Essence magazine - the one with Kofi Siriboe on the cover looking quite delicious, and I stumbled upon the "Sex & Love" section. In this edition of the magazine there is an annual review that asks questions related to one's romantic life and sex drive. Granted, there are other areas the article addresses, but these two areas stood out to me. To be perfectly honest there were two questions that almost depressed the hell out of me and made me ask, "What have I been doing for the last 336 days?!?"

The questions that made me pause and ponder were; "How many dates I went on" and "How many times I had sex." I realized my answer is zero. How pathetic. I haven't been on any dates in 2017. Why? Furthermore, I can only name a few occasions where I went out with friends. All I do is go to work! This needs to change. As far as sex is concerned, I have my beliefs when it comes to this subject, but I will be real. There is a difference between a conscience decision to be celibate and celibacy by default.

One of my favorite songs is "Lifetime" by Maxwell simply because I can relate to the lyrics. I was reborn after being broken and I realize I must be open in order to get something better than what I had before. But, most importantly, I have a choice to either let life pass me by or make the best out of each day I am blessed to see. I believe I should give my best efforts to my career, but I should not make it my life.

I am not the type to make resolutions or claim to "turn over a new leaf." But, I have decided to balance my life. I've whined over too many regrets. It is time for me to redeem the time and start doing and fully enjoying this thing called life. Simply because it is a precious gift.